Did anyone NOT see this coming?
The recent happenings are the following:
- Cousin got married tonight, wedding was outside at White Rock Lake & it was cold & awkward.
- Good thing the rest of my family is always a good damn time, I can’t say we all agreed with it, but I do hope we are all wrong.
- Have a sore throat so I’m drinking gallons of O.J. which makes the heartburn unbearable which leads to chewing TUMS like a club kid chews his gum (welcome to months 4 & 5 of pregnancy).
- Have used none of this holiday break for catching up on school related tasks, didn’t want to.
- Spending time with him, which is getting better all the time.
Would somebody please bring me every Four Loko flavor?
There is an old saying I like, “Marriage means commitment. Of course, so does insanity”.
There is nothing appealing or romantic to me about dragging legality, finality, God or Church into my love affair. Makes it less hot, that’s for sure. I suppose if a somewhat false sense of security, public acceptance or tradition is what you’re after, you may find yourself immediately disagreeing with me and that’s okay. A sense of excitement is taken away and replaced with consistent redundancy when I KNOW that I’m tied into this union forever. What is there to keep working for when you know you’re both locked into a contractual agreement regardless? No thanks.
I want the challenge of living with the same person day in, day out, knowing that each of us is free to go at anytime but is so enamored with the other that we make a decision every single day to stay. It’s such a happy sort of freedom, it’s indescribable.
I won’t get into the 50% failure rate marriage has. Without bringing God, how you were raised, tax breaks, personal insecurities, pregnancy, children, social norms & familial expectations into the picture, what reasons are you left with to marry? I see none. Besides, I can put on a white dress (or a red, yellow, black, gold, silver, you get the point) look jaw-dropping amazing, invite friends & family over for a helluva good time while the man & I go on about how in love we are anytime. In fact, we may do that multiple times, why do it once for the sole purpose of being bound contractually? I will admit to already wearing the most amazing diamond engagement ring I’ve seen to date. I’m content as can be, I’ll pass on the rest.
I leave you all with this: If I ever marry, it will be on a sudden impulse - as a man shoots himself. ~H.L. Mencken